The Influence of Women

We’ve all heard the foolish comments from those who are ignorant and claim that Islam oppresses women. We’ve all participated in the hijab debate at one point or another, as we tried  to simplify the ruling of Allah to those who’ve exposed the evils that exists within their thoughts and hearts. Needless to say, Islam honours women and over 14,000 years ago when the world granted animals more rights than women, Islam came and lifted the status and spirits of women.

It’s not my objective to fast forward to our present day and start bashing the Western lifestyle for treating women like sex objects but since it’s an important issue to discuss, why don’t I just spend a few more sentences explaining the differences between the democratic Western life for women and the Islamic way of life.

 When the message of the Islam came to Arabia, it automatically raised the status of the women living at that particular time. They went from being treated as a low class citizens to having a strong voice in their communities. Islam granted women the right to be respected even in situations such as divorce. Their blood became valued and they were given rights to collect a share of the inheritance. Their beauty and physical futures were’nt promoted, therefore they weren’t used as sexual beings for all of society to enjoy.

Hijab came as a means of honor and not as a degradation for women. The ruling that women should cover themselves came from Allah, who is well aware that women have been created with some unique qualities.

For one, my sister reminds me from time to time that women mature at a much faster pace then men. Women also (in her extreme opinion) have been created with qualities that allow them to pick up on knowledge at a rapid speed and the list can continue for several more pages. I don’t deny any of these points that she makes because I haven’t dedicated time in looking up her facts but all I can say is, generally speaking, she may be right, however, it must be based on a case to case basis. Often times I tell her, slow down hijabi…I think someone has been emailing you facts that haven’t been confirmed (of course I say this with a smile and with the utmost respect 🙂 ).

Nonetheless, I’ve come to realize that women are the source of attraction and influence. Unfortunately, many individuals have yet to come to terms with this point.

When I was younger, I read an article and the author described the influence women have over men. He gave the example that one hundred men can not influence one single woman to follow them unless she willingly agrees, however, one woman can influence one hundred men to do just about whatever she wants them to do. When I first read his example, I laughed to myself and said, “this man has no idea what he’s talking about”but over the years, I’ve witnessed his words come to life. I was surprised when the reality of his words became known to me.

Than I thought to myself, perhaps there is deeper reason as to why Allah ordered the believing women not to talk in a soft manner. Or perhaps there is also a deeper reason as to why Allah ordered the women to talk behind a veil or screen. Soon after pondering over such thoughts, I came to the realization that Allah created women with abilities and qualities that maybe too much for the average Ahmed to overcome, therefore Allah ordered laws to be obeyed and set boundaries. After all, Allah is the Creator of everything and only He has the right to legislate.

However, there will always be men (even from the Muslims) who will continue to reject the ruling of Hijab; these men are following desires, so dont pay too much attention to their useless words and claims.

Now compare the honour Islam afforded women to the present day humiliation women receive.

In our time, the democratic way of life offers women the right to make a choice. It seems fair right? It’s their life, so let them choose the best road for them? However its a little more complicated then the surface would cause you to believe. Looking past all of the politics and evil desires involved, you’ll realize that women are slaves to society. Their handed a can of coke to advertise, but before she can hold the can high, the director informs her that she needs to reveal her beauty for the shot to be perfect. That sounds foolish right? She’s only promoting a can of coke so why does she have to wear a swimsuit again? Well, the answer is because sex sells right? Right! So sex sells at the price of a woman’s dignity? All this sounds foolish to me. What’s really happening is the same point I was mentioning earlier regarding how “women are the source of attraction and influences” but somewhere along the line, that understanding started to get implemented for all the wrong reasons. 

We’re living in a period of time where a woman’s body is being used to sell material, which in reality, degrades her to the level of the object; at times, she may be worse than the object she was intending to promote. So one may ask, why aren’t the women coming together and protesting the humiliation that society has caused them? The answer is really complicated and I don’t even know if I can produce it.

Than again, for women to receive honor and respect, they must accept Islam as a way of life. It’s really difficult for women to survive our period of time without Islam as their means of protection. Don’t get me wrong, in the end, both men and women who don’t accept Islam will be doomed. Its just a man without Islam is like an animal (or even worse) but a woman is created a little different. The difference between a man and a woman is, she’s more centered with her emotions and all a man wants to do is fulfill all his desires. Sometimes his desires comes at the price of her emotions but that’s life without Islam. That’s an example of our society and the state of women who are not protected by the legislation of Islam.

I’m not trying to say, women are more in need of Islam than men because that is far from the truth. The point I was trying to get across is, women are like pearls hidden in the case of Islam and Islam protects them from being touched by foreign hands. Now imagine this, a world where every women refused to talk to a man unless he approached her for marriage. Would such a world be a better place? It’s kind of hard to say when the ratio of women to men stands at 8:1 (last time I checked) but it sort of reminds me of the society of the companions of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him).

In their society, no woman was left without a man; whether she was divorced or widowed, decided to marry late or she was young and never touched, every woman from that time had a man.

For example, in the battle of Uhud there was a man named Handhala. This man had recently gotten married to a woman named Jamila bint Abdullah. It was the starting stage of their marriage and any married man would know how attached the heart becomes to dunya in the beginning days of his marriage. However, it was a critical moment for the Muslim community and the army had been summoned to fight the pagans of Mecca. Hamadhala spent the night before the battle with his wife and after enjoying her company, he rushed out the next morning to join the army. During the battle, we attempted to go after Abu Sufyan but in the process, got killed. Jamila, his wife, who spent the night and morning with her husband and after his death, she found out that she was pregnant with her late husband’s son. She was so proud of her new knowledge that she called witnesses to testify on her behalf.

Jamila was now a woman who had been married and with a child under her care so who would marry such a woman right? Wrong. A man named Talha, who was one of the ten to be guaranteed Jannah, married her and placed her son Mohammad ibn Hamadala under his care. Hardly do we hear of situations where a sister who has been divorced or widowed, getting remarried to a man, let alone, a great man. In the case of a sister getting remarried, than perhaps she would agree to the marriage a man who she may not be content with and Allah knows best. She may think to herself, its better to be married to a man who may not help my status with Allah rather than dealing with the worlds problems by myself. But that is the difference between our society and the society of the companions of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him).

If we wish to taste success as a nation then we must take the path of those who came before us. If we choose not to take their path, than Allah stands in no need of us and we shall fail. In the end, history will record our page and declare our generation was a generation that failed. So let’s assist each other in coming closer to Allah. No more criticism that brothers cant do this or that nor should the brothers think negatively of their sisters because in the end of all those talks, we only have each other. We’re all one body connected and if one of us becomes weak, than we’re all victims to that same weakness.


10 Responses

  1. Assalamualaikum akhee ameen…

    Alhumdulilla Allah ta’la once again gave me tauweeq to go through ur blog…

    As i said previously ,ur blog has made me ur fan,has magnetism effect on me,draw me towards it every time i come on net….I shall link ur blog to mine if u give permission.

    The way you select topics,the style u write therein,the creativity u put in,the attraction u create there with and the solid truth u make out of it is really worth praising-alhumdulilla -mashallah-tabarakallah.

    Whomever Allah has bestowed with hikmah,has bestowed him with great goodness…..Allahhahuakber

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  2. Assalam alaikum Hamid,

    Alhamdulilah Im glad you like the topics I discuss in my blog and nothing I write or do is worthy of any praise but all of it is for Allah.

    InshAllah I will send you an email when I get a chance and if you want to link my blog to yours, you have my permission.

    May Allah forgive us for our sins and grant us Jannah.


  3. jazakAllahu khairan for your once again thought provoking words. It seems that perhaps our community is regressing in terms of how muslim men treat muslim women and vice versa. We have collectively forgotten to revisit the tradition of our Nabi (salAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam) and his companions, and study their actions – thus allowing the community we live in to teach us how we should behave. May Allah protect us from this, subhanAllah.

    Also, as a note, the companions name is Handhala* Ibn Abi Amer, whose nickname was ghasil almalaaika (washed by the angels). I haven’t searched for the english hadith yet, but the arabic is as follows:

    قال رسول الله (ص) : رأيت الملائكة تغسل حنظلة بين السماء والأرض بماء المزن في صائف من الذهب .

  4. Assalam alaikum BlessedMuslimah,
    We are regressing as a community on how we deal with each other and some of us even rush to sign up for therapy sessions thinking it would grant us the answers to our problems. Its almost laughable. But its a serious matter so I shouldnt really laugh right? But their foolish to think answers can be found in any other place other than the Quran and I can laugh at them right? Than again, I shouldnt cause that would be bad manners.

    By the way, did you get a chance to read my “Entering a New Stage” post? Because I think you may be the person I mentioned at the bottom of that post and Allah knows best.

    Thanks and may Allah have mercy on you

  5. Masha’Allah, a very reflective post.

    SubhanAllah this is so true: “Sometimes his desires comes at the price of her emotions but that’s life without Islam…”

    I enjoy reading your musings alhamdulillah.
    I hope I can write like this one day….

    Btw at the beginning of your post it says Islam came 14,000 years ago whereas it came 12600 years afterwards 🙂

    W’Allahu Alim

  6. FearAllah,

    You and I both know Islam has been around for more than 14,000 but the reason I threw that number out there is because I just wanted to focus on one particular time period.

    I didnt want to talk about the Romans and how they abused their women or the Perisans but I wanted to briefly compare Arabia 14,000 years ago and their treatment of women to our present day and Allah knows best.

  7. Ah I see now. JazakAllahu khairun for the clarification.

    Indeed Allah does know Best : )

  8. السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

    “…”Than again, for women to receive honor and respect, they must accept Islam as a way of life.”…”

    Dr. Billal Phillips says “Islam is a way of LIFE”

    In other words, we all (MANKIND) need to accpet Islam so that we may SUBMIT to the only creator of the universe that is diety worth of worship noneother than Allah (s.w.t.) and everything that is in between and around it. Otherwise, like you mentioned we are doomed. Unilt then, like you also mention, that mankind will always follow his deisres (whatever it may be) until he/she has submited and becomes a “Musilm” who has surrendered and is now worshipping his/her lord (Allah {s.w.t.}).

    This is why we need a Muslim state, with a Calipha. We as individuals need to work on this, to build our community and hopefully as a city so we may establish this. Until then, all of our actions will determine tomorrow. If everyone knew their sole purpose of life and their role, this would have been establised already…until then, only time will tell. As the Prophet (p.b.u.h.) said
    ‏بدأ الإسلام غريبًا، وسيعود غريبًا كما بدأ، فَطُوبي للغرباء‏!‏.

    The Prophet SAW said “Islam began as something strange, and it will return as something strange the way it began.

  9. ^^^You stated some great points. MashAllah, may Allah reward you.

  10. {Their intention is to extinguish Allah’s Light (by blowing) with their mouths: But Allah will complete (the revelation of) His Light, even though the Unbelievers may detest (it). (61:8)}

    I’ve run into two different types of people when trying to correct people’s misconceptions about hijab and the status of women in Islam. One type may be ignorant, usually as a result of misinformation, but are open minded and willing to listen and learn. Another type is *consciously* ignorant. They don’t want to believe Islam is a just religion. They will do whatever they can do to badmouth Muslims. And that’s the type you don’t want anything to do with, because no matter what you say or do, they will not believe. It’s just a waste of time.

    It’s beyond frustrating, and it’s the latter I experience the most. But the wisdom of Allah, subhanallah, He tells us that this will happen to the believers.

    {And We have put a bar in front of them and a bar behind them, and further, We have covered them up; so that they cannot see. The same is it to them whether thou admonish them or thou do not admonish them: they will not believe. (36:9-10)}

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